Posin' or Imposin': Life's no Fun without a Good Scare

Tender lumplings everywhere/Life's no fun without a good scare/That's our job, but we're not mean/In our town of Halloween
—Nightmare Before Christmas

Leaves flirting with changing colors; pumpkin spice lattes shared as a mid-day snack; cozy sweaters worn over leggings; ghoulish figures adorning coffee tables; sparkly purple and orange lights hanging from porches; scary movie nights with friends…oh, it’s beginning to look a lot like Halloween. I happen to love Halloween because of all the festively fun things surrounding the holiday. There are so many unique gatherings that go with the holiday. When else could we go conquer the streets of downtown Denver dressed up as zombies. When else could we scare ourselves silly in a haunted corn maze. When else is it socially acceptable to pretend to be any person (dead or alive), beast, thing, or creature and randomly knock on strangers doors for candy (or in the rich neighborhoods money) or trek across town to the kickin’ party. Halloween, more than any other holiday, seems to encourage people to let it all hang out—the good and the scary—as they come together to celebrate a day where they can be anything they want to be. Halloween encourages us to put aside who we are and become (at least for a moment) imposters of some one or some thing else.

I must say that while I simply adore 99% of the celebratory things that go along with Halloween, I have never liked dressing up in costumes. My mom use to dress DT and me up in the best costumes—good enough to win prizes—but I hated it (I think I might have even loathed it as I tended to cry throughout the entire process). I’m not sure what has made me hate dressing up, but it’s followed me into my adult years. In college, J(B)P often had to twist my arm to dress up and later, while at FSU, I’d find ways out of going to the parties (one year I went to Atlanta to trick-or-treat with my young cousins…I made Trini dress up, but not me; another year I went to the Florida/Georgia game). Something about dressing up makes me inwardly cringe and outwardly become socially awkward. It makes no sense. I’m the first one to decorate my apartment (this year, it happened on September 25 just to enjoy it longer); the first to string up lights on my porch; the first to encourage watching 13 nights of Halloween; but it’s the dressing up that gets me.

While being an imposter for Halloween is an apparent challenge for me, lately, I have found myself feeling like an imposter, and I’m not sure why. In January, I wrote a post that said I wanted to stroll right in and be a part of the club—the exclusive club with a members-only guarantee. Now that I’m here, I feel like I’m still swinging on the slight peripheral. Perhaps it’s because people still mistake me for a student (I swear it’s cause I’m short as the kind woman checking my ID to go through airport security exclaimed, “YOU’RE 30?!? But you’re so short.” Hm. Because apparently once you hit a certain age, you magically become a height specific to that age. Well shoot, my magic fairy must have used the wrong wand). Perhaps it’s because my diploma hasn’t arrived to confirm that, yes, I successfully completed a Ph.D. Or perhaps it’s because I can’t get JT to call me Dr. Siss. Whatever the reason, I find myself thinking, “What are you doing, Kara. Someone is going to guess you don’t really belong in/to this club. They made a mistake.” It's really a weird feeling, especially given just a month ago, I felt more like a professor. So, ironically during the month of October, I’ve felt like I was posin’ and that someone is going to catch me doing my best professor impression and call me out.

I'm hoping that this feeling is short lived. I don't like it shifting it's way through my mind, teasing me at the most inappropriate times. Perhaps then it would be fitting for me to dress-up as a professor for Halloween. Or perhaps I’ll just go with my go-to and dress as a 80s rocker chick. Even though, I'm feeling like a poser, some might say neither is that far of a stretch for me, and perhaps therein lies the problem. So 80s rocker professor it is. Problem solved.I'm glad we had this conversation.

Rock on.